All posts tagged: column

why I think beauty is boring

Beauty is boring. Did I really just say that? Beauty is soooo boring. Show me someone with compassion, kindness and good energy and I’ll show you someone who represents my kind of beauty. The beautiful beauty, the beauty you need nowadays to make a dent. Today, a beautiful face is not enough. It’s the aura of us that carries our handsomeness. It’s the way we talk and move, the way we articulate and the way we shine from the inside out with the right thoughts and beliefs in our mind. Isn’t it tragical that when we speak about beauty, we use to speak about the look of someone? Have you ever met those people that not really fit into the general classification of a pretty face or perfect model sizes, but still there is something so beautiful about them? Something intangible that you fail to describe? I’m a true believer that beauty is way more than just the look of our bodies. But still, especially for us women and young girls it’s all about our …

from actual to ideal self

wooohooo it’s just me myself and I… Me. Myself. And I. The self. But who am I? Who is my SELF? Most of us have a very critical view on their selves. Here, the psychology distinguishes between the actual and the ideal self: The actual self refers to the person or the self that we think we already are. The ideal self is the person we wish to be. Let’s have a closer look at the actual self first: “I’m not good enough, I can’t do that, my legs are too fat…” Feels familiar? But why are we so critical with ourselves? And most important: How can we be more relaxed with our self-image? Sadly but true, most of us are programmed to pay more attention to our failures rather than to our successes. If we do something good, if we accomplish something, we mostly have a few seconds of joy. If we do something embarrassing we probably think about that weeks later. And that’s shit because when we have this programming in our mind, …

un-jealous yourself

My mom always told me to not be jealous. Yeah thanks mum, great when you see all the kids with so much stuff you want to have. I never really understood why she was saying that. Not until now, when I grew up a wise young woman (lol). Being jealous is indeed a very harmful thing: you feel bad about yourself and actually it doesn’t change anything about your situation. As a superstitious Siberian, my mom even told be to protect myself from jealousy by not showing off everything I had or accomplished. Hard for me not cruising around with my newest bike to attempt I was the coolest kid on the blog (I was definitely not). But somehow, this permanently got stuck in my had and I was observing that on myself as I was growing older: Especially when I started traveling, I got more and more wry looks from people asking me why I could afford this or hearing the sentence: “Your traveling again? Well I have to sit in the office the …

it’s time to take responsibility

Current circumstances in the world are bucking the image of humanity. There are so many questions, questions for which you and me have no answers. Questions about how this world can be damaged in so many ways… we feel powerless. But at the same time, maybe it’s just a tiny little spark, there is so much light and hope for a better world. Sure, we won’t be able to undo all the tragic that happened and fix the world over night. Maybe things will get worse and we won’t see peace for a long time. But I tell you what: Every one of us has the power to change the world around us by starting with the person in the mirror. We are not responsible for other person’s actions. But, hell yeah, we are responsible for every decision we take and every step we make. If each of us starts trying to be a better person, spread a little more love and show a little more compassion for other human beings, this tiny little spark …