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from actual to ideal self

wooohooo it’s just me myself and I…

Me. Myself. And I. The self. But who am I? Who is my SELF? Most of us have a very critical view on their selves. Here, the psychology distinguishes between the actual and the ideal self: The actual self refers to the person or the self that we think we already are. The ideal self is the person we wish to be.

Let’s have a closer look at the actual self first: “I’m not good enough, I can’t do that, my legs are too fat…” Feels familiar? But why are we so critical with ourselves? And most important: How can we be more relaxed with our self-image? Sadly but true, most of us are programmed to pay more attention to our failures rather than to our successes. If we do something good, if we accomplish something, we mostly have a few seconds of joy. If we do something embarrassing we probably think about that weeks later. And that’s shit because when we have this programming in our mind, we always get stuck in our failures that keep us down and suppress our full potential. The key here is to lead your attention to your good sides. That takes time and training. Start here with observing your attention: Lead your attention to the good sides of yourself as here lies the potential to grow…

…growing into your ideal self. The self you wish to be. The self you decide to be. Because when you set your decision to work on yourself to become the best version of yourself, you have to reshape your self-image. Write down who you want to be. Then write down what you can do to accomplish it. And then, the next and most important step is to act and get out of your comfort zone. Only when you change your habits, you can become what you desire to be.

See it as a game. It’s fun because actually, you can become whoever you want to be!

Love, Angi.

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